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May 2024 - Getting Others on Board with Decluttering

Aug 09, 2024

🫧 I had an interesting moment this week. 

I have so many ideas for things I want to talk about here on Refine. Things like decluttering, slow productivity, self-care, healing, luxury, and organization to name a few, all through the lens of simplification. 

The thing is, there’s so much I want to say, that for a moment, I didn’t know where to start. The irony of being someone whose passion is simplification, having so much stuff to share about it, and not knowing where to start, is not lost on me. It actually gave me a little impostor syndrome. 

It took me a moment, but then I remembered how to get past a block like this. Whenever I get to a point where there is some sort of overwhelm, whether that’s information, choices, stuff, you name it, my first step is always to hit pause and get to the root. What is really important here?

I want what I share with you, and anyone who joins our adventure in the future, to really be valuable. I really want to help you build your best, most abundant life, through simplification. 

I realized that my current content is missing those more foundational pieces. In the time I’ve focussed on simplification, certain questions have come up over and over again. Questions like: 

  • How do I get rid of sentimental items?
  • How do I get my household on board?
  • What do I do with collections?
  • How many items should I have?

Most of these questions are from people only just dipping their toes into the world of practical simplification and I’m also very aware that these questions have been answered by many other ā€œsimplification experts.ā€ As I build out my brand though, I think it’s important for me not to ignore these fundamental pieces of knowledge. 

So, I’ve been having a great time gathering my learnings for, what I am currently calling, ā€œSimplification Foundationsā€ posts. A series of posts covering those most frequently asked questions. My hope is that they are not only helpful to people just starting their journey into simplifying and curating their dream life, but also remind those who’ve been at it for a little longer, how far they’ve come! 

So to get us all started:

Something by me

One of the most asked questions when it comes to simplifying our belongings is:

How do I get my household or family on board with decluttering?

When you’re motivated and inspired to declutter and simplify your life, it can be incredibly frustrating when you live with people who aren’t on board with the concept. Decluttering your home can feel like a huge task, especially if you're the only one in your household with the drive to do so. You’re already convinced of the benefits of decluttering—from a cleaner living space to reduced stress—but how can you achieve this when your family or roommates resist the change? Let me share how to proceed. 

READ THE REST HERE

Something by someone else

Speaking of other people’s stuff:

Title: ā€˜The Comfort of Things’ by Daniel Miller

What it’s about: ā€œAn ethnographic study of an ordinary street in London and looks into thirty households. It reveals the aspirations and frustrations, the tragedies and accomplishments that are played out behind the doors. It focuses on the things that matter to these people, which quite often turn out to be material things – their house, the dog, their music, the Christmas decorations. It reveals the forms by which ordinary people make sense of their lives, and the ways in which objects become our companions in the daily struggle to make life meaningful.ā€

Why I like it: In academia Daniel Miller is the material culture guy (material culture is a fancy way of saying "stuff"). His life's work is studying people and their stuff and it is fascinating. If you’re ever in the mood for getting real academic about humans’ shopping, browsing, and owning habits, his work is the number one place to start. I never thought I would fangirl over an anthropologist/ethnographer but here we are. Back to the book. When I was doing my dissertation I read a bunch of his work, but the Comfort of Things has left a lasting impression. For as long as I can remember, I’ve always been interested to see how other people live, not to judge, but to learn about my own blind spots. To learn what I don’t know. This book has given me that opportunity. To look behind closed doors. And even though it's a study, which can be quite dry, there's something really raw and emotional to it. While it’s not exactly a page turner, it's made me appreciate the complexity of being alive in modern day society and how our stuff fits into that picture.

Check it out here: https://www.wiley.com/en-us/The+Comfort+of+Things-p-9780745655369

Something by you

Going back to the introduction of this email, I’m really curious to hear: 

What are the questions about simplification you’d like to see me answer? 

I’d love to hear any questions you come across often on the internet, but I’m open to all questions of course! You can directly reply to this email.


Refine updates: Behind the scenes

I’ve already shared that I’ve been thinking a lot about the type of content I want to share. On top of that, I’ve hit some big milestones while creating the course on digital organization. It’s really almost ready to officially launch! 

In the meantime, if you’re planning on joining, I’d love to invite you to start preparing by choosing where you’d like to create your backups if you haven’t already (I recommend either Google Drive, Dropbox, or OneDrive). 

Just like always I will be announcing any and all launches in this newsletter, so no further action is required on your end!

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